*Disclaimer: This is a post that delves deeper into my thoughts based on personal values & opinions. To each his own. I choose kindness.
I've come to believe that learning to ignore certain things is, indeed, a great path to inner peace.
But there is ignoring things, and there is being ignorant. Two very different things.
I hope to always be intuitive, aware, and a keen observer of my surroundings.
I don't believe in ignoring things that I feel are unjust toward others.
So I walk this line of learning to ignore things that aren't worthy of troubling me (which has been greatly beneficial to my being), while being a mindful observer & feeling deeply at the same time.
Another way to put it, is there is a time to heed Gandhi's word, "I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet." And then there is a time to say, "Excuse me, but for the benefit of all, would you mind removing your mucky boots?"
So, once in a while as I go about blissfully ignoring superficial things & deflecting them from my peaceful space.. something comes along that stomps dirt on my patience. Rather than ignore it, I want to counter it with some common sense & decency.
This is one of those little things.
Quite a while ago, I saw something shared by an acquaintance on a popular social network site, (I know.. place of all places where it's best to ignore things.)
It was one of those sarcastic greeting card memes.. some of which I find funny.
They're all over Pinterest, too. I'll give you some examples from my "light hearted" board.
This is amusing to me because I'm guilty of this. Here's to us!
This one isn't funny. It's just plain-stated truth I relate to.
And finally, no offense to those sporting stick figure stickers.. But I find the sarcasm in this hilarious.
Hopefully individuals with stick figure stickers in their windows can see the humor, too.
Now these images started off funny, but like many things, they got popular & started going downhill..
Which leads me to where I'm going with this, the post I saw:
It disheartened me that this was shared by an adult who's audience is full of women & young women & teenage girls.
My honest personal opinion is that I think vanity is way over-emphasized in our society, and the commonality & maintenance involved in physical alteration startles me. I'm an observer.. sometimes I look around me while in the grocery check out line & try to find someone who looks... natural.
But my reaction to the image above was disappointment. This is straying from humor and leaning on the side of mean.
My "Counter-it Reflex" kicked in.
I thought to myself: Maybe some people spend so much time worrying about their appearance not because of how cute they think they are, but because of insecurities, or because they don't feel good about themselves. Considerably possible in today's society (of over-emphasis on physical appearance.) I understand what being a teenager is like. Young people are often trying to fit in, trying to be noticed in some cases, or trying to be unnoticed in others. Even as an adult, I sometimes change clothes a number of times before leaving the house for certain occasions, just to find something I'm comfortable in.
My second thought was - Maybe hairstyles or makeup or clothing are a personal statement or form of self-expression, that an individual is entitled to. We all are individuals, who express ourselves differently. If it's decent, not offensive or hurting anyone, then it's not anyone else's business.
Mostly, I thought this was mean spirited.
How about this, instead:
Maybe we should nurture and encourage inner beauty and make others feel good about themselves instead of adding to their insecurities & physical scrutiny.
Be kind. That's all.
PS: I wrote this post months ago. Since then, I've thought more about
humor, and different interpretations of it. I've had an acquaintance
who has repeatedly dropped derogatory remarks in conversation, that I
find insulting on a deeply personal level. (Nothing to do with physical appearance, something more sensitive & personal yet.)
have been one-on-one situations, with the insult directed at me - it's
in my power to ignore it, and up to me to make better use of my time than to share it with someone
who leaves me with such unwanted feelings. I can make better choices than that. It's all good.
But it's occurred to me that
it's possible (though a stretch) that this person thinks they're being funny. Or that they can get away with being malevolent by pretending to be funny.
I admire wit, appreciate humor, and adore a little goofiness.
But I've learned that I don't like it when people use their "humor" as a
weapon to hurt others.
One person's amusement should not be at
What do you think?