Each year as Mother's Day approaches, I have mixed feelings about it. Not strong feelings, I don't love nor loath it.. just vague, mixed feelings.
While it's an occasion showcasing rose colored images of hearts, flowers & warm, fuzzy sharing of feelings.. I realize that for many, it's a difficult day.
Every human on earth got here by means of a mother, yet not all of them have a mom in their lives or have known a mother's love.
I've felt the same mixed emotions about Parents Night during our kids' sports seasons. These special occasions for special people sometimes draw attention to empty spaces. Sometimes literally spotlighting the void.
I can't help but feel sensitive to the reality that it's not a greeting card kind of day for everyone.
All that said, being a Mom is my life's greatest work. It's a job I do each day for my kids, for their dad - my partner in this venture called life, and ultimately - for society. I consider it important business. And I've been abundantly blessed. Five healthy kids who have made parenting so easy & enjoyable. (much more often than not)
I had a beautiful day. I think this, my 17th as a mom, was the best mothers day I've ever had.
Maybe in large part because I've learned not to have expectations.. whatever will be will be. (Or maybe I've been so busy I haven't had time to have expectations.)
We traveled the day before for a baseball tournament, getting home nearing midnight, so it was a treat to sleep in Sunday morning. I woke up to sunshine pouring in on my face, and a small train of servers filed into the room to deliver bedside breakfast. A cup of chai, an omelet, french toast, and homemade cinnamon rolls Mitch had spent hours preparing from scratch!
I find it awkward eating breakfast in bed, so I opted to join them in the kitchen.
The younger three kids had brought Mother's Day things home from school on Friday.
It's been a while, however, since Mason & Eric were in elementary school, where teachers are instrumental in making sure moms get some sort of recognition from their children on Mother's Day. I was surprised to find cards from the two of them on the table. (Thanks in part to their Spanish teacher.)
I laughed so hard I cried.
"Happy Mothers day Mom. Your The best Mother There is. Have Your self a gloryful (glorioso!) day. I know I was probably an accident but I'm sure I'm still your favorite."
Love Mason (Julio is his Spanish class name.)
"Mom, Happy Mothers Day. You are the best mama in the world. Don't worry, be happy. ☺
Love, Your favorite child, Eric (a.k.a. Carmelo)
Number 2 in chronological order, Number 1 in your heart."
Lilly (4th grade) painted a lovely flower pot with violets planted in it.
Johnathan (5th grade) made me a wonderful custom list pad with pen.
And Beau (1st grade) created this fine portrait of me:
Comfy pants, chocolate, dates and walks together.. Beau sure knows what makes this mom happy! And his affection and flattery are ever generous.
I love being their mom.
After sleeping in & breakfast, I washed dishes, tackled laundry & household tasks. I had really hoped to read a book, but finished the day by giving Mason a haircut.. he's particular about a trim about every 3rd week. Usual things, but I loved having a day with everyone home - a rarity these days. It was a good day.
Friday the kids' Track & Field day & afternoon ball game were canceled due to weather, so on a whim, I was able to join my mom on a short road trip to some antique shops & estate sales. It was a great day spent together enjoying the spontaneous route.
I thought a lot over the last week about all the moms and non-moms I'm thankful to know as friends.
A friend of mine (and new mom) had sent me a message saying she felt like the worlds worst friend for not being in touch.
I reassured her she shouldn't feel that way, and proceeded to think a lot about Friendship.
When it comes down to it, since I've been a wife & a mom I haven't felt that I've been actively on top of my "friend" game. But I don't beat myself up over it.. because a happy marriage & raising safe, healthy, growing children are first tasks in life at this stage. I hope true friends near & far know that I'm there for them if they need anything. But when it comes to daily life, my family has me fully submerged in mine, and I understand when others are wrapped up in theirs. Life is so full. I consider that a blessing. Just as I consider friends who understand and value their partners, babes, & kiddos a blessing. There will be days for long visits with friends. Right now our nest is full, there are so many variable factors in a day. Time & chats with friends are spotty, but all the more special when they do pop up.
The same can be said for my sharing here. I love blogging & visiting my blog friends. If anyone should notice me missing a week here or there and wonder..
I'm likely busy being a mom. I'll be back. :)